Pushing Fifty, gratefully

I turn 47 this year. As I tick up the right-hand side of the happiness curve (which bottoms out at 44--see previous post, Forties Slump,) the major emotion I feel is gratitude. After 45, you take nothing for granted.

Already peers are dying from breast cancer and heart attacks, predeceasing their elderly parents in some cases, so you become aware that it can happen and if it does, no one will stand by your graveside murmuring how young you were and how you died before your time.

So you feel grateful for every good night's sleep, for every meal that doesn't give you indigestion, for every pain-free movement, for every moment of inspiration. Sometimes you forget you're not twenty any more, but you never forget to be grateful.

But most of all you're grateful that you're no longer that young, unaware, ungrateful version of yourself, and that you can never be that way again, now.

Forties slump--symptoms vs. causes

The Miami Herald (2/12/08) reports that "a new international study which analyzed more than 35 years of data" found that people in their forties are more depressed than those younger and older. The lifetime curve of happiness follows a U-pattern, which bottoms out at age 44. Wonderful!

In the same article, midlife crisis is described as a "genuine condition" identified by the following symptoms: "irritability, loss of sex drive, impotence, fatigue, depression, hair loss, weight gain, and loss of ability to recover quickly from injuries."

Now I ask you, are they mixing symptoms with causes of the 40s slump? If you were losing your sex drive and your hair, fatigued all the time, gaining weight and aching from injuries, wouldn't you be depressed and irritable?

They then go on to offer hope: research is being done on testerone replacement therapy for men; nothing mentioned about women. So we get stuck going through perimenopause AND a midlife crisis at the same time with only primrose evening oil as a remedy. Paint me POed!